Gordon’s Story
I chose the wrong path with drugs and alcohol and now that I am in recovery I have to deal with the choices that I made while using everyday for the rest of my life. I destroyed my family, friends and my life. I have been in jail many times, had thousands of pounds in fines, inpatient rehab, car crashes and watched my friends die. If only I had chosen not to take the first drink or drug, my life would be totally different. My advice is not to let other people make choices for you. Life is so much better without drugs and alcohol. Gordon started using drugs in sixth form as a way to make friends and fit in. He was overweight, and other students teased him about it.
“I wanted people to like me, and I wanted to feel accepted,” he said. “And the easiest way to find that was with people who partied because they don’t care about you at all. As long as you’re partying, you’re good to go.”
Dave’s drug use escalated, from alcohol and marijuana to pills and heroin. He was in and out of jail. Gordon entered treatment at age 21 and has been sober for about six years.
His family life deteriorated from the stress of his drug use.
During presentations, Hannah speaks about the pressure to be the perfect sister in light of her brother’s addiction and feeling neglected by her parents. Rick talks about being angry that his son couldn’t conquer his addiction, and Jodie explains how she enabled her son to the point that her marriage nearly crumbled.
“I was the standard enabling mom. I protected him, I tried to fix him. I loved him to death. He stole, he lied, and I didn’t tell Rick a lot of it,” she said. “And in every family that we’ve met with, we always see that division. We are very fortunate. Gordon could have chosen to go the other way.”
“We know what we’re doing is working,” Gordon said. “It’s affecting everybody, and people are finally starting to open up and try to figure out what we can do about this.”
“We know what we’re doing is working,” Gordon said. “It’s affecting everybody, and people are finally starting to open up and try to figure out what we can do about this.”